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Intimacy

There are six dimensions of intimacy. You most likely already have one or more dimensions of intimacy with whom you seek more intimacy as that intimacy is what draws you together. There is no order of importance, every relationship has greater needs or wants in different dimensions. All the dimensions require three keys to succeed: communication, connection, and engagement.

Body confidence is the path to intimacy.
  1. Physical intimacy - the touch, the feelings induced by body contact. Prioritize sexual intimacy, learn your partner’s desires and fantasies, and go on a journey to explore them together. Do it often, be spontaneous. But also schedule special times for fantasies and kinks. Plan together and look forward to that day.
    It is also the brief and frequent physical contact throughout the day, a hand on a shoulder, a quick kiss, a pinch on the ass, etc.
  2. Emotional intimacy - Communication with a big ‘C’. Building mutual trust to be able to open up and share thoughts and feelings. Clear and candid communication is most important to avoid misunderstandings and misinterpretations when you share your innermost thoughts. Emotional intimacy is important because it is durable and long-lasting, especially when you are alone.
  3. Intellectual intimacy - the mental dimension of emotional intimacy. Learning each other’s interests and ideas to connect on common grounds. Sharing books or blogs to discuss together. Engaging in long discussions on subjects of common interest.
  4. Creative intimacy - creative passions! Be it in art, crafts, sports, and absolutely sex! Kinks and fantasies trigger the most intense creative intimacy together with emotional and physical intimacy.
  5. Experiential intimacy - things you do together! Be it climbing a mountain or simply taking a long walk brings you closer and share the satisfaction of the achievement, big or small.
  6. Spiritual intimacy - sharing of ideals of a higher level, beliefs and values. Positive affirmation of each other’s spirits. It is important to underline that it is about one’s own spiritual values, not those imposed by religion or other powerful figures (family, teachers, etc.).

Most of all, mutual awareness of behavior and expressions builds up all the dimensions of intimacy over time.

References good to read:

  1. What Is True Intimacy in a Relationship? - PsychCentral
  2. How to build emotional intimacy with your partner - NBC News
  3. 6 Types of Intimacy - Naya Clinic